I used to be quick to defend my family members…even if they were dead wrong; you were not going to tell them they were wrong. I was taught that when someone in your family doesn’t like someone then regardless of if they’ve done something directly to you or not, you don’t like them either. I can’t tell you how many fights I got in growing up just because my cousins didn’t like someone. Looking back it was stupid and half the time they were in the wrong, but I remember my older family members saying, “Blood is thicker than water.” The older I got the more I realized that regardless of blood, right is right and wrong is wrong. I could care less who you are…if you’re wrong, you’re wrong. I’m not going to love you any less, but I’m not going to defend your behavior either. Recently I’ve found myself in several situations in which a friend’s family member was DEAD WRONG…yet this friend refuses to accept anything other than what the family member is telling them. It’s soooo frustrating. I feel like the family member knows they have the other family member wrapped around their finger; so as soon as the family is wrong and they know it, they call the family member with a sob story to try to get the family member on their side and like clockwork, the family member falls for it. Then I have to hear well they said this or you’re taking it the wrong way. I’m sorry but if someone is being blatantly inconsiderate there’s only one way to take it. UGH I’m getting pissed just thinking about it. I wish I could tell you guys the situation, but it wouldn’t solve anything. Just be cautious of family members that are quick to run and tell their side. Be cautious of the ones that are always playing the victim. Because they’re not as innocent as they want you to think. I guarantee you; they’re telling you just enough to make the other person seem wrong for being upset. I’m not saying your family members would lie to you, but they’re definitely not telling you everything.
Peace
Rachelle Danielle