This was a hard letter to write, only because I feel like I’m quick to apologize… especially when I know I’m in the wrong. I used to apologize so much so, that the person I was apologizing to would say “Ok Danielle, you’re sorry, I get it”. I used to hate for people to be mad at me or more importantly say that I hurt their feelings. So as soon as I realized I was the one in the wrong, I made it my business to apologize. I think everyone has pretty much forgiven me…or at least the ones that I care about have. I’m pretty sure there are some others that haven’t, but I haven’t loss any sleep about it, so with that being said the person I need to forgive me the most is the person that looks back at me when I look in the mirror.

Rachelle,

You have to learn to forgive yourself. It’s ok, you’re expected to mess up every now and then. Don’t allow one mistake, or even a few mistakes, to cause you to feel defeated. It’s not fair for you to be quick to forgive others yet incessantly replay your failures in your head. You’re not perfect, get over it! You can’t blame yourself for everything that doesn’t happen the way you expect it to. Some relationships were just not meant to be. Some people were only supposed to be in your life for a season. So stop saying “what if I”…it wasn’t YOU! You could have followed everything by the book and something’s still would have happened…it’s called LIFE! Mistakes are just another chance to get it right. Forgive yourself.  So what, you didn’t live up to some peoples unrealistic expectations of you. Yes, you’re a role model, but you have your own life to live. You’re going to make mistakes, but in making those mistakes, hopefully you’re stopping others from doing the same. So FORGIVE YOURSELF YOU’RE NOT PERFECT!

The past is the past and there’s nothing you can do to change it. You’ve learned from every mistake that you’ve made and done a pretty decent job at not repeating them. So again, I say FORGIVE YOURSELF and Let it go! As much as you joke around saying, “I’m not human”, truth of the matter is, you are, and therefore you’re not flawless.  You have no reason to hold your head down or beat yourself up about it. Let it go! You’ve reached your goals more times than you’ve thrown them away. You’ve gotten it right more times than you’ve gotten it wrong. You’ve forgiven everyone that has ever hurt you, so why can’t your forgive yourself??? My point exactly, so let it go, forgive yourself, and move on!

Rachelle

Am I crazy for talking to myself?!?!?!