Recently I was asked if I would ever relocate for a man if money, job, housing etc were not factors. After an extremely long pause, my answer was “yes”. I knew what I was saying and I heard the words coming out of my mouth but I couldn’t believe I would be willing to do that. I’m usually the one saying “Girl bye, let that man come to you.” “Don’t chase behind a man ” “Why give up your life and friends, he should give up his.” “How much does he make” Yada Yada Yada, Blah, Blah, Blah. I don’t know if you want to call it maturity or simply a change of heart, but either way, I’m slowly realizing it’s okay to follow your heart sometimes, especially if you’re in a committed relationship with a common goal (marriage).
I know this sounds so out of character for me. I’ve been known to have some feministic characteristics but I’m learning you can be submissive and supportive to your man while still being an independent, strong woman. Relocating for the one you love shouldn’t be looked at as a sign of weakness but rather a sign of strength. Think about it…it takes a strong woman to leave her comfort zone, her environment, the place she calls home, to embark on a new life; especially when the relationship could go either way.
I asked a few guy friends, and I was shocked that with the exception of 2, all said they would be willing to relocate for a woman, if she was the more successful of the two. Take success out of the equation and most of those that said yes they would move said that they would expect her to move. Believe it or not, I honestly would have to say that I share those same sentiments.