Last night I had a heart to heart with one of my closest guy friends. He was sharing with me how he doesn’t understand why some bad decisions from his past, won’t stay in the past. No matter how hard he tries, how hard he pleads, how hard he repents, they just won’t seem to go away, and stay away. He was saying how his frustration had reached an all-time high and he was almost to the point of being done. Several times throughout the phone call he asked “Why Me”? He then asked me how I remained optimistic even when things weren’t going my way. His exact words “I mean I know you’re saved and everything, I am too, it has to be more than that; what is it?”
My response (not verbatim):
I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I wrote a blog a few years ago regarding a saying I heard and have since adopted; “yesterday happened like it did, so that tomorrow can happen like it should.” This literally delivered me from the “oh God why me” syndrome. I no longer looked at a “bad” day as detrimental; I began looking at it as preparation. It was during some of my darkest moments that I found myself. It’s because of those things (and of course God) that I’m at this place today. It was my mom’s drug addiction that showed me the true meaning of restoration. That whole ordeal taught me there was nothing I couldn’t face and win! It was my grandmother’s death that caused me to really get serious about dance. She would always tell me to “just dance” so once she died, that’s what I did…Danced! Dancing has opened doors that my degree wasn’t able too. It was my father being away at war that forced me to fall in love with writing. I would write him constantly. I had to paint the picture of my life for him. I had to make him feel like he was right here, though he was worlds away. I got a writing scholarship in college. It was drama with an ex that showed me, if I didn’t love me, I can’t expect someone else to. I had to learn to put my own gas mask on before I tried to save someone else. All of these were major events that at the time I didn’t or couldn’t understand. However, it was those moments of uncertainty and pain that helped prepare me for my true destiny.
Think about it….If that person wouldn’t have told you that you couldn’t do it, would you have even tried? If you wouldn’t have experienced that amount of pain would you have realized just how strong you actually are? If he/she wouldn’t have walked out, would you have met the man/woman of your dreams? If they would have just given it to you, would you have realized that you have the ability to get it for yourself? As difficult as it may have been, you made it through your yesterday; you may face some challenges today, but hang tight and get ready for your tomorrow!
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Seeing the world through the eyes of this little girl, prepared me to see the world through the eyes of this woman! #Thankful #Blessed
Rachelle Danielle 
Wow if that didn’t minister to my very inner core. My husband decided that after 30 years of marriage, he had had enough and he left me and the kids. I turned around about 75 times in a circle, lol. I didn’t know what to do, how I was going to make it. BUT GOD!!!! I’m stronger, I’m wiser, I’m better, so much better. The breakup wasn’t bitter, but it was just the idea of “my marriage breaking up!!!” How was I going to tell people, what was I going to do, what about the kids, and bills and stuff…….BUT GOD. Here I am going back to school and now I got two kids to raise alone. What, what, what, BUT GOD.
I asked him over and over and over, Why and he just kept saying, it’s not you, it’s me. Well about 2 months ago, I wouldn’t take that for an answer anymore so I wouldn’t let go until he told me. When he told me why he left, I got so tickled, it was almost unreal. I said I been worrying myself about this, lol, lol, lol. I went into another gear and actually thanked him and now I know why God wouldn’t let me get angry. I wanted so badly to get angry and do like I have heard women say they do and how they do on tv. I wanted to burn clothes and put sugar in the tank and scratch cars, lol. BUT GOD…….I made sure he had enough of what he needed to start his new apartment, even gave him our living room furniture. I’m stronger and wiser,….so honey, thank you for letting me know that “Yesterday happened like it did, but tomorrow is going to happen like it should” To God be the glory!!!!!!!!!
– that was beautiful. I was JUST thinking on my drive into work today how everything in my life has culminated to today, to make me the person I am TODAY. It was a random thought but then I came across your blog- and I believe that, today, God chose to speak through you to my heart. And solidify my feelings and to help me realize that my inner instincts are good. Thanks
Thanks for sharing that with me cause it ministered to me. I think I needed something to hold onto today and this is it! I know I am blessed and all the things that I have been through have made me stronger. I love you and may God continue to be with you!
Awwww and I love you right back!!!!
Beautifully written! Don’t ever change your outlook on life. God has great things in store for you! Continue to allow Him to use you
Wow!!!! U better preach, preacher!!!….LOL
Naw but that is good….I’ll have to use that motto….Thank you for being obedient in sharing! That truly touched me!!!
And I totally agree…..I am reminded of Jeremiah 29:11 (which is one of my fav. Scriptures) but it just really fits this, because if what we went through, what we did, or whatever that happened to us was to harm us, it wouldn’t have happened because God says he knows the plans he has for us; Plans to prosper us and not to harm us…and like Joseph said, You (she, he, them, etc…) meant it or the Devil meant it for my bad, but GOD meant it for my Good.
Youth conference coming up, don’t be surprised if you’re asked to speak.
Haha, a preacher I am NOT!!!! I keep telling you and Elder Davis (since I’m sure she’s the one that directed you to my blog 🙂 ) I dance and I write! I’ll leave the preaching to you 🙂